A toddler throwing tantrums might put you in a challenging situation as a parent, but there are steps you can take to pacify your child. Here are some tried and tested way to deal with your child's temper tantrums.
Deal with the behavior immediately
The first thing to do when dealing with tantrums is to try to figure out the cause of the behavior. Some tantrums are caused by physical factors such as hunger or fatigue.
Other times they may be caused by frustration over something that happened before or during the tantrum itself (like not being allowed to play with friends). If you can identify the cause of your child's tantrum, then you can address it and prevent future problems from occurring.
Avoid yelling at your child
When your child throws a tantrum, it's important to avoid yelling at them. Instead, try to find out what's causing the tantrum and why they're acting so irrationally.
If you don't know what's wrong, ask your child what they want or need. Let them know that you are there for them and will help them solve their problems as soon as possible.
You may also try distracting your child by talking to them in a calm tone of voice and using a happy tone of voice. If this doesn't work, then try playing a game with them instead of arguing with them about what they did wrong or why they feel upset in the first place.
Allow your child to be angry
The worst thing you can do when a child is throwing a tantrum is try to “stop it.” This teaches your child that tantrums are an effective way to get what he or she wants.
You should allow your child to be angry, not avoid it. Your goal is to help your child find positive ways of expressing his or her emotions. If your child is angry, tell him or her how you understand and support them in their anger.
If you have a strategy for handling the problem — like taking away something that has upset your child — follow through with it. If your strategy doesn’t work, try another one until one does work.
Use simple commands
When your child is throwing a tantrum, the last thing you want to do is yell at him or her. But if you don't say something, the tantrum will continue. You can't expect your child to stop when he or she is upset, so it's up to you to help out.
When your child throws a tantrum, try these simple commands: "Stop!" "Please!" "Give me back my toys!" "Time out!" These are all easy and effective ways to get your child's attention and keep him or her from getting out of control.